I have found comfort in seeking out others who have shared the experience of losing a child.  It’s interesting to see that no matter how different we can be as individuals there can be a bond in this shared experience.   It’s weird in a way, to find comfort in not being the only one, yet still hoping beyond anything that this doesn’t happen to anyone else.

I guess that is my way of introducing you to another blogger, Hailey’s mom.  Hailey passed away in August of 2009.  She and Kiran had a few things in common, not the least of which was that they were both three years old.  Hailey’s mom has been blogging longer than I have and I have been reading for a while now.  If you all have a few minutes I would like you to check out her blog on 2/27/09 entitled “What To Say? What To Do?”  You can find her here.

Sometimes I am asked for guidance, and sometimes I just give it.  Here is something from someone else who is living it, like me, and not a book…although if anyone wants a book suggestion I have a few.  Actually, Elizabeth Edwards wrote very eloquently about the death of her son in her book Resilience (I wouldn’t suggest the entire book for obvious reasons, but about two thirds of the book is specifically about her son and I am not sure I could have said it any better).   Anyway, you will see how different Hailey’s mom and I are, yet if I sat down to write a list it wouldn’t be much different.